Progress OVER Perfection

Progress OVER Perfection

Why don’t we recognize progress? Within our selves? Within our work? Within our family? Friends?

Or maybe you do, but more so in others than when you look in the mirror.

What do you think?

Is it because we are constantly comparing? Is it because we are constantly in competition with someone else when we don’t mean to be. For example, have you ever been on a treadmill next to someone else and you feel the urge to out do them?? Have you actually done it?? All the while the entire time they have no clue they are competing with you they are just on a leisurely jog….. #Guilty

That is just one example of MANY…. We seem to be always comparing, always feeling we will not measure up. It is like we are striving to be perfect even though we ALL know it is impossible to be that.

It can start at a young age now with so much access to what every one else is or is acting like they are doing. Social media can be a bad thing in some circumstances especially with young people. (It definitely has good stuff too do not get me wrong).

The constant comparison though is not healthy, and in young kids it can really put them at risk for anxiety among other things as they get older.

Always having to outdo or have the better toy or outfit or later on car or home than the next person. And then the, how do they afford that? We can’t even afford ____ and then the constant beating ourselves up for not being good enough.

Its dangerous! Our confidence and ability to believe in ourselves goes down, we are striving for something a few years ago probably did not even matter. We refuse to look in the mirror and see what we DO have, what we SHOULD be thankful for, what we CAN bring to the table.

The key…. is to realize that we ALL have something to bring to the table, we ALL have something to offer. BUT we are ALL different! So we cannot expect to live the same exact lives and do the exact same things with the same outcomes as others., even our family!

Not to mention…. what the comparing does to health over time…

It causes that underlying stress we may not even realize we have or are putting on ourselves until late at night when we can’t sleep because our stress hormones are working out of sync. Or when we find ourselves reaching for that pill or drink to calm us down. Over time these things escalate to other things if we do not look in the mirror and see ourselves. What we HAVE and we CAN be.

This is something that helps me when I lose perspective on this:

  • Take the last 24 hours and write down 1-2 things that you are proud of that you did or accomplished. It can be big or small.

  • Take the last week and repeat this process again for the entire week, what is something good that happened, something good that you achieved, something good that you did for someone else even.

  • Take the last month and repeat again for 2-3 things. Keep these close to you and look them over, Add to them daily if you need or want to. The more you focus on this type of thing the more you will recognize the positive in life and build your confidence.

Please understand that I am not discrediting those of us (me included) who have anxiety or other illnesses, they are real, but a lot of times if we can recognize that we are triggering certain things ourselves we can feel better. I am not saying it is easy or it will work for everyone, but sometimes it is all us and WE have to do what we can to fix it.

I would love to have you try my approach, and see or hear if it helps. The steps outlined above take time but help me when I get to a bad spot, I just HAVE to make myself sit down and do them. Tag me on social media or email me and let me know how you feel, and if it helped. Feel free to share this with whoever may need it.

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Our Core aka Our Bodies Foundation

Our Core aka Our Bodies Foundation

IT’S MORE THAN JUST A SIX PACK! When you think of your core what do you think of? Those pictures of models with rock hard abs then you find yourself  thinking you could never achieve that? Do you classify it as the worst part of your body? Where you used to be small, but now not so much? Or do you consider it your foundation, the trunk, the stability portion of your body….?

If you chose the last one then this post isn’t for you because you already know the deets :). However if you didn’t then keep on reading, (and no shame in that! I defintely was there early on in my career, all I wanted was rockhard abs and did 1000 crunches a day…. Seriously ).

Today I want to shift your  mindset so you can understand how truly important our core is to us.. I will try to make it simple and not get too complex with all the big words :).

To start lets talk about what our core really is:

Bottom line it is our foundation. Its the area that provides stability for our ENTIRE body, its support for when women have a growing baby inside, essentially its where we can and want to be really strong (with that said though when I say strong I do NOT mean tense all the time). It consists of essentially over 20 muscles that help stabilize the lumbo-pelvic- hip complex and provide the FOUNDATION to our spine and help our kinetic chain move properly. One way to think of it is by asking, “ would you build a house without its foundation first?” Didn’t think so!

It is made up of multiple layers starting with-

  • Transverse Abdominis,

    • or TVA – it acts a sheath to our spine and provides a foundation to our spine. This is an area we can work when we are doing stabilization activities, breathing exercises, etc.

  • Diaphragm

    • its is a skeletal muscle that is located at the base of the ribs and top of the abdomen. It is actually a major component of respiration and in creating abdominal pressure, filling our lungs and helping us relax.   It is located under our ribs and works with breathing to engage and strengthen some core muscles as well as our pelvic floor. It also benefits us by helping us relax. It works along with the abdomen and pelvic floor to apply pressure and strengthen the abdomen and supporting muscles of our spine.

  • Internal obliques

    • lie right above the TVA and are part of the abdominal wall. They have two major functions; helping with respiration as they act as the opponent to the diaphragm by compressing the abdomen muscles during exhalation helping reduce air in the chest. As well as helping us bend and rotate working with the external obliques.

  • Multifidi

    • are also part of our abdominal wall or cannister if you will providing support to the back. They help support the joints that support our spinet. They are deep and help reduce pressure on our spine so our weight can be distributed evenly.

  • Spinal erectors

    • help us stand straight and also assist when we bend our spine (think touching our toes). They work along with pelvic muscles, glutes and hamstrings to bring us back to standing.

  • Pelvic Floor

    • It consists of multiple muscles and is essentially the bottom of the cannister working with the diaphragm to help with releasing and controlling pressure within the abdomen. It also provides the base to our spine.

  • Rectus Abdominis

    • This is the one we see and think of with a six pack.  They helps us bend and stand straight (support in the front).

  • External obliques.

    • N outer layer of our core on the sides of the rectus abdominis, but work with our internal obliques to help us bend and rotate.

  • Serratus Anterior

    • Although this may not be thought of as a “core muscle” as it is located under the shoulder blade it is vital in posture which in turn can help support the spine. So training it is important too!

  • Glutes and Hamstrings

    • Just like the serratus these muscles work with the pelvis, spine and hips to help with movement so they need to be strong in order to have a well balanced kinetic chain to help with functional movements and provide spinal stability.

Bottom Line :

As you can see there is alot more to it than just the muscles we see. Due to the importance of all these muscles and their roles in our foundation and movement patterns we can see why if some are weak and some are strong we have problems that run through our kinetic chain (which means our muscles head to toe) out of balance. This can also lead to injuries. We need to train it all in various ways to improve movement patterns and our pain and stiffness.

This is also  why we cannot go by all the workouts, all of the stuff we see online. We need to build our bodies from the inside out if you will and THEN we can do all the cool workouts without having to worry about injury.

How to train it:

Literally start breathing as step one – deep breathing that is. This engages our diaphragm, our ribs, our TVA, internal and external obliques, our multi fidi, and our pelvic floor. Those are some of the most important and neglected muscles. This simple exercise can be done anywhere and anytime of day. Not to mention it helps us relax and get out of that stressed out shallow breathing pattern many of us do day in and day out.

One of my favorite exercises to work your core- Check it out!


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